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It’s Nothing Less Than a Mess…

My life is a mess and I am not afraid to admit it. – Nick Diaz

I guess we all have one of these days every now and then, when we just think that our life is a complete mess of things. Life gets messy sometimes. Sometimes, life feels like such a mess that we don’t think we can’t handle it. And, we might not even understand what’s wrong or how life got this messy. But I have many days like that and this pandemic with the bonus of lockdown have made it worse.


You think your life is a complete mess right now, but that’s not even the worst of it. You can’t even put your finger on all that seems amiss, yet you know your life is off-track and you feel perpetually haunted by your inability to set things right.  You who are usually good at solving problems have no idea where to begin to untangle this mess that is your life.


I usually write positive posts and but I am myself is not a very positive person. Sometimes I too feel like nothing is working for me and my life is just going downhill.

Meri kabhi zindagi se dosti hui hi nahi paayi. Dosti toh door, hamare beech toh dhoop chaav waala khel raha. Mene jab sar dopaharo mei dhoop ke sapne bune toh yeh kambakht chaav bator laayi aur jab chav mei sustana chaha toh ekdum chilchilati dhoop.


But one thing I understood after starting this blog or writing poetry and shayri is that everything has a solution. We can find a way if we have a will. I’ve found that practicing affirmations frequently does wonders for changing my internal dialogue. My favorite affirmation is one from Louise Hay: “ All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe.” Whenever there are issues in my life that I’m struggling with, I repeat this over and over … sometimes hundreds of times in a day.

So here’s my advice if you think your life is a complete mess right now: give yourself a break and breathe. Sit in a quiet place where you feel safe, comfortable and inspired.   This could be a favorite chair in your home… a park bench … or wherever.

Your only task for the moment is to breathe, so just focus on your breath and experience it fully. Don’t confuse “just breathing” with doing nothing … allowing yourself good, quality breathing time can be a life changer.

Next, as you calm your mind and listen to your steady breath, begin to allow yourself to bask in the miracle of now and to dwell in gratitude. Let your entire body be transformed by the deep appreciation for your life’s blessings. Allowing yourself to feel extreme gratitude will return you to a state that’s open to receiving new ideas and solutions.

Once you’re “feeling” gratitude throughout your body, here’s the next step: Take in three or four slow deep breaths. When you feel calm, seek the wisdom within your soul by asking:  What are you trying to tell me that I’ve been too busy to hear? What’s the most important thing that I need to know right now?” Then listen patiently and quietly for the answer.

Well, I know this could sound crazy, but I am advising this because your head is spinning right now and because of that you can’t hear the wisdom within.

You’re so focused on the fact that you think your life is messed up, that you can’t focus on anything else.

Your fear is trying to tell you something, but it’s all coming at you so fast and furiously that you can’t understand what to make of it, which leaves you frustrated and more fearful. It’s a trap and the only way to get out is to get out of your mind so you can hear the Divine wisdom of your soul.


In the end I’ll say just one thing that Life is a mess and we know it. But we all must try to be positive and keep on trying. I know we will fall many times but the person who knows how to get up after every fall is the real winner. We just have to think of life as a endless hurdle race. You just have to keep on running and jump whenever you see a hurdle. Sometimes you will pass through it and sometimes you will fall but if you get up after every fall then you automatically will be the winner. So never underestimate yourself and just keep on running.

Embrace the glorious mess that you are. –  Elizabeth Gilbert

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