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Loneliness Knows Me By Name!!! 

Mehul Singla

Hey guys. How are you all? It’s good to post second time in this week. I hope you liked my first post of this month. If you have not read it then I am leaving the link below for you people.

https://lifeinprogress290296.wordpress.com/2017/02/05/unrequited-love/

So let’s start with today’s topic, that is loneliness.

Being an introvert I like to stay alone and keep my feelings to myself. I don’t like to socialize much. But my introvert nature has developed a feeling of loneliness in me.

For introverts, loneliness usually is not from being alone but from not having someone to talk to when we have a concern, a bad day, a great idea, etc. I know I felt super lonely for the longest time and being around people made it worse. I have superficial friendships with people, but I didn’t have a close relationship with anyone, so I just felt like no one knew or understood me. I had to meet my emotional needs on my own, and that is why I felt lonely.

I’m lonely. And I’m lonely in some horribly deep way and for a flash of an instant, I can see just how lonely, and how deep this feeling runs. And it scares the shit out of me to be this lonely because it seems catastrophic.
I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps and others emphasize my loneliness.
Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no one cares and I have the same feeling. I have been betrayed by people who once meant the world to me. I don’t have friends on whom I can rely. I can’t share my feelings with anyone. I have developed a feeling that everybody secretly hates my that’s why I keep a distance from people.

Buy one line helps me to cope with my loneliness, that is, You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with and I like to be all alone with myself in my thoughts, I like to be alone in my own world where things go according to plan and everything is perfect.

So at the end, I will like to ask you a question, How many of you have ever been a victim of loneliness and how you got out of it? 

Published by Mehul Singla

Bearded and love traveling. Wanna experience new things in life.

74 thoughts on “Loneliness Knows Me By Name!!! ”

  1. yes,that’s indeed true in one’s life as i have felt like a victim to it and also found a gr8 solution to it that is doing things which you love the most as you will never feel lonely!!!!!

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    1. Thank you for nominating me. It feels good that you like my posts.. But I have already done 2 awards on my blog so I’ll write about this award after some time. But I am happy you nominated me and I will definitely write about it😊😊

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  3. You have written it so beautifully, the pain almost pouring out of your words, the pain of almost all introverts I think.
    As for how to get out of it, for some part you need that superficial friendship too, so ending that wouldn’t do much good and as for other times, you’ve got your own amazing company and hobbies, being with them is far better than being in wrong company in those days.

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    1. Thank you very much. Yup being an introvert is not an easy thing. And you are correct that our hobbies are the only thing that helps us to cope with this loneliness. And superficial friends are better than any fake and bad company…

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  5. Do anything and everything that makes you happy. Being an introvert, I can understand your situation. Look towards the positive side of life and forget about all the negativities. Hold on… I am sure everything will be fine again. That’s all I can say. Zyada hogaya kya? 🙆

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      1. Yeah its true.but you know what even if u get friends, girlfriend ,partner or wife then also for few moments you will feel that they understand you or there presence will make you to feel complete but still some part of your will also be lonely, it happens for every one.just enjoy being yourself. ☺

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  11. loneliness comes with our expectations that people around us whom we considered our world couldn’t fulfill. They couldn’t understand us at 2-3 times we would forget it but then comes the saturation point where you couldn’t tolerate it and then you just let it go and then you don’t expect anything from anyone. Its like they have broken your trust you don’t mind what they do because u don’t care now.

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    1. Loneliness is a very dangerous feeling. You feel like every one hates you and you are alone in this world. Every single moment comes to bite you. People around us betrayed us. That’s why we tend to cut off from them. I don’t care about people who were once very close to me as they left me in middle.

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      5. don’t know its been a year being surrounded with 100 of people but still there’s the void within. sometime just wish to elope somewhere alone or get the time machine that could undo the past

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      6. That’s what happening with me. I have a lot of friends but still there is something missing. That feeling hurts. And this all is due to 1 person who betrayed me when I needed that person the most.

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      7. as always people. With me not someone betrayed me but they were never there when I needed them. However still I am always there for them. because I couldn’t be them. I know how it feels to be alone

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      8. But I think if they are not there for you, then we should try to cut them off from our life as they are not true to you and don’t help you when you need them. You deserve to be happy.

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  13. Great post! I like to be alone for periods of time, but I was alone for so long in my 20s, I don’t stay alone for too long anymore. It makes me quite depressed.

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  16. You write very accurately about loneliness. I too have found that not any person relieves loneliness… they need to genuinely listen and care. And, as you say, if you like your own company, you feel less lonely. I think that just keeping looking for genuine friends is how I’ve managed to get the feeling to recede, and also reconnecting with old friends, and joining groups of people with similar interests. And reading novels and making online friends too. I have linked to your post on my latest, post (https://unconventionalwisdom.org.uk/2017/05/12/friendship-is-undervalued)… hope that’s ok (let me know if not and will remove). Good luck and best wishes 🙂

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    1. Thanks a lot. I am glad you think that I write accurately.. One’s own company is very important as we are the most important to ourselves. I don’t have many friends so I am used to be alone.
      Don’t worry. I am happy you linked it. It shows that you really felt nice about my post..

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  17. I relate to your post very strongly coz I actually see a reflection of myself out there ……its one thing to be an introvert and it’s another thing to not being able to trust people be it family friends or even your partner to be around you when you’re at your absolute low …….loneliness is not just feeling isolated with the world but sometimes even yourself !!

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    1. That’s so true. Loneliness is not just a feeling but yourself. I am glad you liked the post. I try to get out of this loneliness but every action goes in vain. I don’t understand what should I do..

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  18. I feel your pain. I am currently lonely. I have lost some friendships and a relationship all in the same weekend. Maybe it’s a sign that better things are coming?
    I am getting through my loneliness by expressing myself on this blog, exercising, thinking positive thoughts, crying/punching pillows if I need to.
    The light will shine soon Mehul Singla. Just gotta push through it!!

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  20. Haven’t gotten out of loneliness yet, seems like a constant companion, but it definitely feels better other people are in the same boat, thanks for writing about something so personal!

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    1. I am glad you liked the post. There are many people who are victim of loneliness. But everyone should fight this together and should try to come out of it asap. You can contact me anytime whenever you need any help😊😊

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  21. I’ve never found anything like this which describes my life perfectly. I’m feeling down right now. Right now. No cure for that. Get busy or get lonely. That’s how my life works

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    1. It’s for me too. Get busy or get lonely.. That’s why I try to be as busy as possible for the whole day. I always feel down.. It’s like something is eating away my happiness and I am the one serving him to eat more.

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