Hey guys. How are you all? It’s good to post second time in this week. I hope you liked my first post of this month. If you have not read it then I am leaving the link below for you people.
https://lifeinprogress290296.wordpress.com/2017/02/05/unrequited-love/
So let’s start with today’s topic, that is loneliness.
Being an introvert I like to stay alone and keep my feelings to myself. I don’t like to socialize much. But my introvert nature has developed a feeling of loneliness in me.
For introverts, loneliness usually is not from being alone but from not having someone to talk to when we have a concern, a bad day, a great idea, etc. I know I felt super lonely for the longest time and being around people made it worse. I have superficial friendships with people, but I didn’t have a close relationship with anyone, so I just felt like no one knew or understood me. I had to meet my emotional needs on my own, and that is why I felt lonely.
I’m lonely. And I’m lonely in some horribly deep way and for a flash of an instant, I can see just how lonely, and how deep this feeling runs. And it scares the shit out of me to be this lonely because it seems catastrophic.
I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps and others emphasize my loneliness.
Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no one cares and I have the same feeling. I have been betrayed by people who once meant the world to me. I don’t have friends on whom I can rely. I can’t share my feelings with anyone. I have developed a feeling that everybody secretly hates my that’s why I keep a distance from people.
Buy one line helps me to cope with my loneliness, that is, You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with and I like to be all alone with myself in my thoughts, I like to be alone in my own world where things go according to plan and everything is perfect.
So at the end, I will like to ask you a question, How many of you have ever been a victim of loneliness and how you got out of it?
yes,that’s indeed true in one’s life as i have felt like a victim to it and also found a gr8 solution to it that is doing things which you love the most as you will never feel lonely!!!!!
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That’s what I do. Doing things you like takes you out from every bad situation…
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Thank you for nominating me. It feels good that you like my posts.. But I have already done 2 awards on my blog so I’ll write about this award after some time. But I am happy you nominated me and I will definitely write about it😊😊
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Thank you. I nominated you as a favorite and not just for the award; so, it’s okay. Sure! 😄
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Oh that’s a great compliment. It feels good that someone actually likes your posts. Thanks a lot for liking my posts😊😊
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You have written it so beautifully, the pain almost pouring out of your words, the pain of almost all introverts I think.
As for how to get out of it, for some part you need that superficial friendship too, so ending that wouldn’t do much good and as for other times, you’ve got your own amazing company and hobbies, being with them is far better than being in wrong company in those days.
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Thank you very much. Yup being an introvert is not an easy thing. And you are correct that our hobbies are the only thing that helps us to cope with this loneliness. And superficial friends are better than any fake and bad company…
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Yes, yes😊
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Thank you for saying so😊
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Do anything and everything that makes you happy. Being an introvert, I can understand your situation. Look towards the positive side of life and forget about all the negativities. Hold on… I am sure everything will be fine again. That’s all I can say. Zyada hogaya kya? 🙆
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Nhi zyada Nhi hua. You said things required to live a happy life. Thank you for supporting me and understanding me.. I am happy some people can understand what being an introvert feels like..
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hey buddy .. enjoy the solitude.. less people less drama ..
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Thank you buddy. Yup I know that less people means less drama but sometimes you need to share your feelings with someone.
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yes . for sure .. here in WP there are so many wonderful people .. keep sharing things .. u will feel better
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Yup that’s why I joined WordPress, to share my feelings. Thank you for reading it and talking about it☺️
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im always around ..
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Thanks for saying so😊
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well written👍
And thanks for the follow dear😘
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Thank you. I followed coz I liked your posts. And thanks for follow back😊😊
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I too followed beacuse i liked your posts😜
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O dear every body of us is lonely in our world,but that’s k.
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I think you are right. But being lonely forever is something different and not everyone goes through it. You know it hurts when you have so much to share but don’t have anyone..
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Yeah its true.but you know what even if u get friends, girlfriend ,partner or wife then also for few moments you will feel that they understand you or there presence will make you to feel complete but still some part of your will also be lonely, it happens for every one.just enjoy being yourself. ☺
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Yup you are correct. Some part of us will forever be lonely. Thank you for taking out your time to give my post a read and helping me to understand loneliness☺️☺️
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you can be lonely when you don’t want to be with someone or someone be with you.
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That’s not the problem here. I want to be with someone but people always end up leaving…
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Nice one! 🙂
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Thank you😊
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loneliness comes with our expectations that people around us whom we considered our world couldn’t fulfill. They couldn’t understand us at 2-3 times we would forget it but then comes the saturation point where you couldn’t tolerate it and then you just let it go and then you don’t expect anything from anyone. Its like they have broken your trust you don’t mind what they do because u don’t care now.
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Loneliness is a very dangerous feeling. You feel like every one hates you and you are alone in this world. Every single moment comes to bite you. People around us betrayed us. That’s why we tend to cut off from them. I don’t care about people who were once very close to me as they left me in middle.
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that leaving in the mid hurts the most
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Yup it hurts. But I think we should try to move on and forget people who hurt us. They don’t deserve our tears..
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kash itna asaan hota
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It’s not easy. It’s very tough. But we have to do it. It’s the only thing that can make us happy.
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yaaa u r r8
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It seems you too are suffering from this pain. I hope everything will be get fine soon. If you need help you can contact any time…
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don’t know its been a year being surrounded with 100 of people but still there’s the void within. sometime just wish to elope somewhere alone or get the time machine that could undo the past
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That’s what happening with me. I have a lot of friends but still there is something missing. That feeling hurts. And this all is due to 1 person who betrayed me when I needed that person the most.
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as always people. With me not someone betrayed me but they were never there when I needed them. However still I am always there for them. because I couldn’t be them. I know how it feels to be alone
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But I think if they are not there for you, then we should try to cut them off from our life as they are not true to you and don’t help you when you need them. You deserve to be happy.
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I know it but I couldn’t show my shoulder to them. I am not like them
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I understand that. But you have to be like them in this case.What’s the point of getting sad over someone who don’t care about your feelings.
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is it so easy
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It’s not easy but still we have to do it to be happy. We are the one who should control our lives. We have the right to get happy.
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hmmm u r r8.
thank u for listening and guiding it was indeed grt to talk to u
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I will be happy if I could be of any help to you. Thank you for sharing your problem. You are a strong girl. You will definitely get over this phase soon. My wishes are with you.
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I know it but I couldn’t show my shoulder to them. I am not like them, but nevertheless I knew what I am doing is correct there would be the time when people would understand
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I hope that time comes soon. I hope you get all the happiness you deserve.. I am always there for your help.
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Great post! I like to be alone for periods of time, but I was alone for so long in my 20s, I don’t stay alone for too long anymore. It makes me quite depressed.
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I top don’t like to be alone. But as I don’t have any friends so I have to stay alone. But I am used to it now.
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I can totally relate it,buddy!
I know this harsh feeling. 🙂
Read my post reality! It would be surely relatable to you!! 🙂
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Thanks a lot for liking the post.. I’ll definitely give it a read😊
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You write very accurately about loneliness. I too have found that not any person relieves loneliness… they need to genuinely listen and care. And, as you say, if you like your own company, you feel less lonely. I think that just keeping looking for genuine friends is how I’ve managed to get the feeling to recede, and also reconnecting with old friends, and joining groups of people with similar interests. And reading novels and making online friends too. I have linked to your post on my latest, post (https://unconventionalwisdom.org.uk/2017/05/12/friendship-is-undervalued)… hope that’s ok (let me know if not and will remove). Good luck and best wishes 🙂
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Thanks a lot. I am glad you think that I write accurately.. One’s own company is very important as we are the most important to ourselves. I don’t have many friends so I am used to be alone.
Don’t worry. I am happy you linked it. It shows that you really felt nice about my post..
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I relate to your post very strongly coz I actually see a reflection of myself out there ……its one thing to be an introvert and it’s another thing to not being able to trust people be it family friends or even your partner to be around you when you’re at your absolute low …….loneliness is not just feeling isolated with the world but sometimes even yourself !!
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That’s so true. Loneliness is not just a feeling but yourself. I am glad you liked the post. I try to get out of this loneliness but every action goes in vain. I don’t understand what should I do..
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I feel your pain. I am currently lonely. I have lost some friendships and a relationship all in the same weekend. Maybe it’s a sign that better things are coming?
I am getting through my loneliness by expressing myself on this blog, exercising, thinking positive thoughts, crying/punching pillows if I need to.
The light will shine soon Mehul Singla. Just gotta push through it!!
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You had friendships and relationships.. I never had any. No friend.. I too use blogging, exercise, crying, cutting etc to escape from this loneliness..
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That makes me sad to hear you harm yourself. Life is a gift. Have you tried volunteering? online dating?
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I know life is a gift but still sometimes this life haunts you.. Volunteering I did but online dating I never tried..
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True it does get hard I understand. Online Dating sure is a good way to meet people! Just have to be careful
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I don’t know if that’s a good idea for me. I don’t feel comfortable around new people..
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I understand. No worries! Keep doing what makes you happy.
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Thank you for your support😊
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Of course! 🙂
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Loved your words, have a look at my post maybe we can tackle this
https://thesoultalk.wordpress.com/2017/07/02/soulitude/
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Thanks a lot. I’ll definitely read your post too😇😇
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Haven’t gotten out of loneliness yet, seems like a constant companion, but it definitely feels better other people are in the same boat, thanks for writing about something so personal!
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I am glad you liked the post. There are many people who are victim of loneliness. But everyone should fight this together and should try to come out of it asap. You can contact me anytime whenever you need any help😊😊
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I’ve never found anything like this which describes my life perfectly. I’m feeling down right now. Right now. No cure for that. Get busy or get lonely. That’s how my life works
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It’s for me too. Get busy or get lonely.. That’s why I try to be as busy as possible for the whole day. I always feel down.. It’s like something is eating away my happiness and I am the one serving him to eat more.
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