Everyday from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We start doing things in order to please others, not because we believe in ourselves.
How are these pants going to make me look? What will my colleagues think if I spoke out? Are those people talking shit behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me?
Living a life that follows the ideal notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a follower. Worst of all, it makes you become someone who doesn’t take a stand for anything.
We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is — those people are thinking the exact same thing.
No one in today’s “smartphone crazed” society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time get our thoughts straight, we’re too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings — not others.
I’ve learnt that it’s better to be loved by a few people you care about, than to be liked by everyone. These are family, friends — the people who love you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times. Focus on these people. They’re the only people that matter.
I am too a kind of person who used to care too much how other’s think about me, I used to care and lose sleep over people who were not effected even if I wake up the next morning. But as the time passed and I grew up, I started to realize that no one is more important than your self respect. There comes a point in your life when you will realize that you will never be good enough for some people. The question is, is that your problem or their’s?
But how much you try to get that feelings away, they will always find a way back. No matter what kind of distraction you conjure up, they always come back in your heart and mind. But at least we all can try to stop caring about others and start living our own happy lives.
Here are some things which can make people to stop caring about others:
- Know your values
- Pu yourself out there
- Surround yourself with pros
- Create a ‘Growth List’
- Travel alone
If one follows the above listed points he/she will at least start living their own lives and not think about what other feels about them because at the end we are alone in this world and it’s our duty to keep ourselves happy. Because at end if we are not happy, we will suffer and waste this beautiful life. This is your one life, there are no do-overs. So remove all the negative sources from it and run towards happiness because how much you try, some people are always going to dislike you and you can do nothing about it.
Finally, please practice this with other people too. If you find yourself judging or gossiping about others, please stop. Let’s focus instead on becoming the best versions of ourselves and encourage others to do the same, even if it’s a different way than us.